Delay Ejaculation: Simple, Practical Ways to Last Longer
Tired of finishing too soon? You’re not alone. Many men want quick, usable tools they can try right away. Below are clear, no-nonsense strategies that help delay ejaculation — from quick behavioral fixes to treatments you can discuss with your doctor.
Quick techniques you can try tonight
Start with the stop-start method: during sex or masturbation, stop stimulation a few seconds before you feel you’ll ejaculate. Wait until the urge drops, then start again. Repeat this 3–4 times, then finish when you want. The squeeze technique is similar: when you’re near climax, press the head of the penis (or have your partner do it) for 10–20 seconds to reduce arousal.
Condoms can make a big difference. Thicker or desensitizing condoms reduce sensitivity and often add several minutes. There are also condoms coated with a mild numbing agent.
Practice edging during masturbation. Train your body to tolerate higher arousal without reaching climax. Over weeks this often increases control during partnered sex.
Medical and longer‑term options
Topical anesthetics (lidocaine or benzocaine creams/sprays) applied briefly to the glans can reduce sensitivity. Apply, wait the recommended time, then wipe excess before sex to avoid numbing your partner. These work fast but can reduce pleasure, so test them first.
Dapoxetine is a short-acting SSRI approved in many countries specifically for premature ejaculation. It’s taken 1–3 hours before sex and can help most men delay ejaculation. Other SSRIs and clomipramine are used off‑label but need daily dosing and medical supervision. PDE5 inhibitors like sildenafil can help if erectile issues are part of the problem.
Pelvic floor exercises help a lot. Stronger pelvic muscles give you better voluntary control. Try quick contractions (like stopping urine) for sets of 10, three times daily. Over 6–8 weeks many men notice real gains.
Don’t overlook psychology. Anxiety and performance pressure make early ejaculation worse. Simple breathing, slowing down, and talking with your partner reduce tension. If anxiety is high or you’ve tried techniques without lasting change, sex therapy or counseling helps most people regain confidence.
When to see a doctor: if this is new and sudden, if you feel distressed, or if it harms your relationship. A clinician can check for medical causes (hormones, nerve issues, medications) and recommend safe treatments.
Final tip: be patient and persistent. Small changes compound. Try one behavioral trick and one physical change (like condoms or pelvic exercises) for a few weeks before switching. Most men improve with practice and the right mix of methods. If you want, talk to a healthcare pro about dapoxetine or topical options — they’ll help match a safe plan to your needs.